Sadness Worry Faith Gratitude JOY
Is there a difference between fear and worry? You see . . . I’m not afraid of facing Ella’s future but I do worry about her future.
I’m not afraid because I know that my Father in Heaven loves her and loves me and has a beautiful plan for our lives. I know that He will guide me along the way and do whatever is necessary to stretch me and help me become the person he wants me to be.
Yet, I worry about some things. I worry about her speech and if she will be able to communicate with others even though I know that we are a part of the best early intervention program around and that Ella is surrounded by individuals that daily work with her to help her succeed. I worry about how I am ever going to send her off to school even when I know that our school districts are awesome for students with special needs, that she’ll have good bus drivers, good teachers, and many people that care about her and want to help her develop and learn. I worry about if she will have any health concerns even though she has been very healthy so far and we have the most amazing and caring doctor out there. I worry about if she will have friends even when I know that I live in a town with people who are so accepting and considerate of others . . . . a town who is like one big family. I worry how she is going to feel when high school dances come along, graduation, work, her friends and siblings get married and have children . . . . . What does her future hold? I know that I don’t want to limit her but the unlikelihood of her being able to have children just breaks my heart the most. I don’t know …. maybe it won’t matter to her as much as it will to me. Maybe by then, my Lord will have filled my heart with understanding and I will be at peace about her life. But for now, my best way of keeping my hopes up is to take on my worries one at a time.
Yet, I worry about some things. I worry about her speech and if she will be able to communicate with others even though I know that we are a part of the best early intervention program around and that Ella is surrounded by individuals that daily work with her to help her succeed. I worry about how I am ever going to send her off to school even when I know that our school districts are awesome for students with special needs, that she’ll have good bus drivers, good teachers, and many people that care about her and want to help her develop and learn. I worry about if she will have any health concerns even though she has been very healthy so far and we have the most amazing and caring doctor out there. I worry about if she will have friends even when I know that I live in a town with people who are so accepting and considerate of others . . . . a town who is like one big family. I worry how she is going to feel when high school dances come along, graduation, work, her friends and siblings get married and have children . . . . . What does her future hold? I know that I don’t want to limit her but the unlikelihood of her being able to have children just breaks my heart the most. I don’t know …. maybe it won’t matter to her as much as it will to me. Maybe by then, my Lord will have filled my heart with understanding and I will be at peace about her life. But for now, my best way of keeping my hopes up is to take on my worries one at a time.
For now, we spend time each day working on her speech development, physical strength, and health. Those other moments will come and I will take them on as they come with faith, strength, and a LOT of prayer. Looking back on the first year of Ella’s life, my heart is filled with gratitude for her and the JOY that she has brought to our family. It hasn’t been perfect, though, by any means.
There are SO many days that Ella is happy and healthy but some days where she has been fussy and sick. There are SO many times when she never ceases to amaze me at how quickly she is growing, learning, and developing but some times where I’m made starkly aware of the fact that she is behind other children her age, even ones that are younger than her. There are SO many wonderful people who absolutely love Ella and give us SO much love and support, but occasionally we come across someone that is a little rude or ignorant. There have been SO many nights that my prayers were full of gratitude and joy but there have been some nights when my prayers were full of tears of frustration or worry. BUT, ONE THING IS FOR SURE…THERE HASN’T BEEN A SINGLE DAY THAT HAS GONE BY THAT SHE HASN’T MADE ME SMILE, FILLED MY HEART WITH JOY, AND MADE ME FEEL LIKE GIVING HER A MILLION KISSES AND NEVER LETTING HER GO.
There are SO many days that Ella is happy and healthy but some days where she has been fussy and sick. There are SO many times when she never ceases to amaze me at how quickly she is growing, learning, and developing but some times where I’m made starkly aware of the fact that she is behind other children her age, even ones that are younger than her. There are SO many wonderful people who absolutely love Ella and give us SO much love and support, but occasionally we come across someone that is a little rude or ignorant. There have been SO many nights that my prayers were full of gratitude and joy but there have been some nights when my prayers were full of tears of frustration or worry. BUT, ONE THING IS FOR SURE…THERE HASN’T BEEN A SINGLE DAY THAT HAS GONE BY THAT SHE HASN’T MADE ME SMILE, FILLED MY HEART WITH JOY, AND MADE ME FEEL LIKE GIVING HER A MILLION KISSES AND NEVER LETTING HER GO.
My heart has turned to Mrs. Jumbo, Disney's Dumbo's mother, when she sings to her little baby who is teased for having big ears.
“Baby mine, don't you cry. Baby mine, dry your eyes. Rest your head, close to my heart, never to part, baby of mine. Little one, when you play, don't you mind what they say. Let those eyes sparkle and shine, never a tear, baby of mine. If they knew sweet little you, they'd end up loving you too. All of those people who scold you, what they'd give just for the right to hold you. From your head down to your toes you're not much, goodness knows. But, you’re so precious to me, sweet as can be, baby of mine.”
And an inspiring quote that came from Timothy Mouse. A MOUSE! The one thing that the other elephants are known for being afraid of becomes Dumbo’s best friend. When they found out that Dumbo could fly, Timothy Mouse said, “The very things that held you down are going to carry you up, and up, and UP!”
And an inspiring quote that came from Timothy Mouse. A MOUSE! The one thing that the other elephants are known for being afraid of becomes Dumbo’s best friend. When they found out that Dumbo could fly, Timothy Mouse said, “The very things that held you down are going to carry you up, and up, and UP!”
· Down syndrome is not to be afraid of.
· Ella is the sunshine in my day.
· One day when Ella is soaring we will realize that the very things that held her down will carry her up, up, and UP!